Beating Panic Attacks
My descent into what felt like hell started on a Friday afternoon on a drive to Richmond from Virginia Beach. I was being treated for bronchitis and the doctor had recommended an inhaler that contained a stimulant. A few minutes after using the inhaler I noticed that my hands were shaking, I couldn’t draw a deep breath, my heart was pounding and I felt like my brain was in a fog. Being the way I am about doctors, I tried to tough it out but it continued to get worse so I stopped at a Diary Queen to get a drink hoping it would make me feel better. The drink of course contained caffeine…..not a good idea but it really never occurred to me that caffeine would exacerbate my symptoms. I started feeling worse and my traveling companion freaked out worse than I did and called the rescue squad. I was mortified and terrified.
I was taken to the nearest hospital where I had an EKG, a chest x-ray, blood work, including the very painful blood gas test and the diagnosis was PANIC ATTACK.
What the hell is that? That’s all I remember saying to the doctor. I left the hospital with a prescription for Xanax and things went downhill from there.
Why? Why, what felt like all of a sudden, was I having a panic attack? Of course, it really wasn’t all of a sudden. My body had been through a lot of trauma in the preceding two years. 4 surgeries….two of which were major. What I didn’t realize at the time was just how hard the treatment for endometriosis with the resultant lack of hormones, plus the 4 surgeries had seriously stressed my body out. Oh, and the 3 times I was rear-ended while sitting at a red light in the last year hadn’t helped a whole lot. But in spite of all that, I thought I was doing ok. I was dealing with things….or so I thought. Lots of things added to the stress I was under including my dad’s open heart surgery for which I spent 4 weeks at my parent’s house helping my mom who didn’t drive and my dad who wasn’t allowed to drive during his recuperation. I thought I could just handle anything and everything. I found out that it all took it’s toll.
I don’t know what other’s symptoms are when an attack is coming on but the best I can remember is my heart would start racing, I would get hot, I had trouble taking a deep breath and when I hit full blown panic I felt disoriented and spacey and of course the fear was overwhelming. Not everyone has the exact same symptoms.
I’d like to say that the panic attacks didn’t last long and I got over them quickly, but that wouldn’t be the truth. The truth is I spent almost 3 years taking more and more Xanax (in addition to the anti-depressant I had been prescribed to help me sleep prior to the panic attacks ), and in spite of the Xanax I was experiencing more and more panic attacks. I finally decided there had to be a better answer.
I don’t want to sound like a commercial here but I have to tell the truth if I am going to tell this at all. The thing that started me on the road to being panic attack free was the Midwest Center’s program for attacking anxiety and depression. I learned a couple of things that were the catalyst to my recovery. First and foremost was the fact that panic attacks will not kill you. You can breathe through them and they will go away. Second was learning that caffeine (any stimulant really) was not helping my situation if I was already anxious. And last but certainly not least was that I could learn to control my thought patterns that could escalate anxiety to a panic attack.
I started using the program and within weeks I was doing better, but there was still one other contributing factor that I didn’t know about. Some anti-depressants have the side effect of anxiety and the one I was taking was one of those. Did I mention that I also had become agoraphobic and developed a fear of driving ? Some antidepressants (at least the one I was on) had agoraphobia as a side effect and Xanax can have the side effect of depression. It was a vicious cycle of one drug causing a problem the other drug was supposed to fix and vice versa.
I quit taking the anti-depressant, continued to limit caffeine and started weaning myself off the Xanax. It wasn’t easy and it wasn’t fast, but gradually I began to feel like my old self again….pre-panic attack self that is. I found that I didn’t feel depressed which was something that started with the Xanax. I decided that I could live life again and my way of dealing with the fear of driving was to drive cross country by myself. The first couple of days were terrible but by the end of the trip I actually was enjoying driving again. I don’t know that I would recommend the sink or swim approach to everyone but it worked for me. Arriving at my destination after 2500 miles of driving by myself was one of the biggest triumphs of my life.
Even after the panic attacks were gone I noticed I still experienced mild but pretty continuous anxiety. I did a little research and found that taking calcium and magnesium helped to alleviate some of the anxiety and the relaxation tape I received with the program I mentioned dealt well with the remaining anxiety. I am now panic attack free but I still have occasions of anxiety which I believe to be normal for most people in uncomfortable situations. Breathing exercises, the relaxation tape and an extra magnesium capsule help in times of high stress. Positive self-talk is another key in relieving the anxiety and one that shouldn’t be discounted. What I found out was the main problem for me with panic attacks was me scaring me with my “what if” thinking.
I want to encourage anyone who suffers with panic attacks that even in the midst of the worst attacks, I never lost control, I never freaked out, I never lost my mind, I never embarrassed myself and I never harmed myself or anyone else. To my knowledge nobody has ever died from a panic attack.
I’m not suggesting everyone who has panic attacks should follow my course of action, I merely wanted to share the fact that one doesn’t have to live with panic disorder forever. There is help, there is life on the other side. I haven’t had a panic attack for 10 years and not only am I panic attack free, I’m also depression free and the strongest drug I use is Advil.




October 8th, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Thank you Sage for reminding those of us who sometimes feel overly anxious, that panic attacks don’t kill. Thank you for illustrating it with your very own story from panich attack through to recovery. Thank you for being real and for being present and in the present. And thank you, again, for sharing your journey of growth and the steps you took to get to your anxiety free state.
A long time ago when I was studying to enter the counseling field, the teacher who taught us the most, the teacher from whom we learned the most, the teacher who was most real to us, was the teacher who was not afraid to reveal her true self and her own history towards growth.
Your post today reminds me of that.
Sage Reply:
October 8th, 2009 at 8:09 pm
Thanks, Sky. I wasn’t sure if I should post this but I was hoping that maybe it will help someone. When it was happening to me I had no idea what was going on and even doctors weren’t helpful.
skyagunsta Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 6:47 am
@Sage, doctors are a pain in the rear sometimes! O:-)
Sage Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
Yes, they sure are.
October 8th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
I had one panic attack years ago. It was after an argument with the way over age woman having an affair with my undrage brother. Back then there was no 911 and since the attack happened after I got home, I dialed the operator. By the time the policeman got there I was hyperventilating. My hands were folded in half and I was blacking in and out. Don’t remember my one and only ride in a police car but I do remember seeing my brother sitting on the church steps about a block from the hospital and being so impressed that he could keep pace, on foot, with the police car.
They treated me with a brown paper lunch sack. I just breathed into that for awhile.
My thing is stress. I internalize it. My hair falls out and plugs the drains (thank goodness I have really thick hair!). I utilze biofeedback and lamaze type breathing. I make myslef go limp and focus on a focal point. I guess you can call it a meditation as I don’t fall asleep
Good post Sage. I am glad you found your way to addressing it and sharing it with us. Thank you!
Sage Reply:
October 8th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
You’re very welcome. It’s a really frightening thing to experience, isn’t it?
Wizcon Reply:
October 8th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
@Sage, Absolutely! I couldn’t believe how my hands curled up.
October 9th, 2009 at 8:20 am
SAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :O
I am eternally grateful to the first doctor I saw. He probably literally saved my life. I was 16 and borrowed my brother’s car to go visit a friend 6 hours away. The night before the trip, I was feeling iffy and strange, but the next morning in the car…OMG! Maniacal! I was alone and far from home and had no idea what to do. This is pre cell phone era
When i arrived I went to a little drop in emergency clinic and the young doctor there told me it was an anxiety or panic attack. He guided me through alternate thinking and not worrying about it and managing it. So I have never ever taken A Pill for it ! I am very proud to say that , but not gloatish at all. I know if I had gone to 99 different docs on that day, they would have hooked me up with a lifetime of chemically altering personality drugs. Now I know several people on pills for it and I very much feel for them. Not because they are lessor than me, but because panic attacks have become super lucrative for docs and big pharma and the little doctor whose name I don’t even know I would kiss FULL ON THE MOUTH if I could see him today !
I had no idea. Seems like we touched on this some months ago on a different thread. I’ve been a panic attackee for almost 25 years. It is a HUGE pain in the butt! Most of you folks know I have a bi polar/schizophrenic mom, so growing up in the household has had its rewards
Maybe every 2 or 3 years I go to the doc because sometimes I have this thinking of ….maybe this is really a heart attack and not panic………???/ You know that thinking?? WHAT IF?? So I occasionally just want my h eart checked I think. A big relief when they say NO just PANIC!
Sage Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
He told you the right thing, AliSilver, and that’s amazing, but have you thought that if you took what he said further you could get rid of the attacks? I truly just don’t have them any more.
I’m very sorry to hear you have had attacks for 25 years.
AliSilver Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
@Sage, I’m sorry. I should have made it more clear. I do have attacks still, maybe almost daily. BUT, they usually last no more than seconds to a few minutes at most. Because I redirect as soon as they start! Also, I know what a lot of my triggers are ,so I can be prepared. That backfires sometimes though and when I know a trigger is coming I can almost get one going. LOL,, but for the most part I would say I have them ‘under control’. But I do get that little flutter pretty regularly!
October 9th, 2009 at 1:05 pm
Two comments:
Well, three, actually. First, I’m sorry you went through that Sage. I know they are scarey.
Second, I suffered one about 28 years ago. Like you, I thought things were going fine at the time, so I didn’t understand why I would have one. Mine occurred after waking up from a nap! (I have, over time, really come to believe that our minds are working on things that we are not consciously aware of.) I was kept in the hospital over-night when I had mine, because they wanted to monitor my heart b/c it was doing strange things. After that, I was strongly urged to go into therapy, which I did. It was the first time I had ever talked to anyone about the awful things that happened in my childhood, and it did help.
I think one’s first panic attack is possibly the worse, because you don’t know what it is, and your fear makes the attack even worse.
My third point is that panic attacks can be quite serious indeed. My BIL’s step-mother actually died from a panic attack. She had a history of them. I’m not telling you this to scare you. I should note that his MIL was morbidly obese, and that may have been a contributing factor (I don’t know.)
I would encourage you to go talk to someone to try and get the stress out of your subconscious and into your conscious.
kert Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
Correction: Sorry, second to last paragraph should be Step-mother was morbidly obese (not “MIL”).
Sage Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 1:59 pm
Well, fortunately I no longer suffer from panic attacks and haven’t for over 10 years and seldom even have anxiety. I have learned some good coping mechanisms for dealing with stress.
Everything I have read says you can’t die from a panic attack, so she probably had an underlying medical condition.
AliSilver Reply:
October 9th, 2009 at 2:33 pm
@Sage, AGREED… Morbidly obese have lots of other health things and she may have had a heart that could not take one extra tick. So when panic hit, that was it. You know sometimes old folks die in a freaky situation just because they have a weak heart.
See Waking Ned Divine? Poor Ned died when he won the lotto !
October 9th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
HEY,,, on a side note to fellow panickers,,,,,whoever you may be…Do you notice when an incident happens that makes NATURAL panic,, that you are more calm than those around you? I have found this to be true numerous times. Oncoming tornado or seriously scary incidents where others are PANICKY I feel a sense of calm. It’s strange , I panic when I should not and don’t when I should! I wonder what causes this and if anyone else experiences that??? I was at a friend’s recently and a 3 yr old fell and smashed her nose up badly…blood spurting all over. The friend picked up the kid and ran to me , screaming my name and she was hysterical! I felt like things were in kind of slow motion and saw her coming and thought ‘ oh she is a panicky thing, isn’t she,,, that baby is fine”. I grabbed a rag, etc etc. But the child was freaked out by HER and comforted by my calm! I live in tornado country and when they are coming, I dont panic at all. I get exhilirated, but not nervous! My natural responses are reversed or something.
Any thoughts from a scholar?